If The Rule You Followed Brought You To This….Of What Use Was The Rule?
-Anton Chiguruh, “No Country For Old Men”
The idea of codifying my life first came to me shortly after my relationship with Tee Jay fizzled out. I had thought that I solved for most of the character flaws that caused for me to perform ‘less than good’ in my previous relationships with women. There were patterns that continued to repeat themselves in spite of the constant self-evaluation that I put myself through on a daily basis. What was confounding me was my behavior and why I would make the same mistakes, and how avoidable that many of them, despite anticipating the potential for fail that they ultimately led to.
I would take most of that first post-Tee Jay year compiling a list of quotes and excerpts from books that I have read or would come across in some other media with the purpose of creating a physical reminder of who I was and the expectations that I had of myself and to help me in negotiating through the various personal relationships that I found myself in.
People often wonder why they make the same mistakes over and again, even when they believe that they are behaving differently or have made a drastic outward change. But whether you are a cat who can’t suck it up and drop that basket of fries like the shift manager told you to, or you are a woman who can’t understand why she is always broke when her hair is in a asymmetrical design not found in nature and in spite of her meager income, she has the hippest purse and at outfits in their closet, the answer always lies within oneself. There I think that there is a reason that people who are unhappy with themselves or headed towards that end, are often shallow and superficial. And I think that Sun Tzu said it best:
It is said that if you know your enemies and know yourself, you will not be imperiled in a hundred battles; if you do not know your enemies but do know yourself, you will win one and lose one; if you do not know your enemies nor yourself, you will be imperiled in every single battle.
I think that is also a rule that speaks for itself without any particular interpretation. Know who you are and know what you are getting into if you want things to work out. If you know half of that equation then you will enjoy heartbreak and loss as much as you will experience joy and victory. And if you don’t know either, then you will fall into ruin. Period.
THIS WILL BE A REGULAR FEATURE
Especially with the uncertainty that has came with preparing for the new year, I believe it is essential that I go over the philosophy that I claim is mine. We have 43 more of these things left, and some will be timely and others will just be plucked at random and offered for discussion. Hope that those who read find something worth reading and I hope that I can produce content that justifies being read!