THIS JUST IN
Rihanna is superNOVAWho ever did this, certainly was inventive. I'd never had thought that these two songs would blend as well as they apparently do.
I am not a fan of tattoos in general, let alone 'tramp stamps', but I would marry Rihanna if she had 'Chuck' on the small of her back! I would prolly be like, "The color sets so good with your skin tone, why bother with removal?"
THREE CONVERSATIONS
Mookie sent some mail down from the provincial town I once jogged 'round. In a case of letting my experience work for me, I called her and thanked her for sending it. Yes Angela, I have put in a forwarding order, but what else would you have me do?
I called and thanked her, asked about lil' Mook, who is in 9th grade and is on the girls b-ball team! I can't really put into words how I feel not being a part of her life. She was so much fun ...
So I made sure that I tethered myself to the present actuality and told Mookie that I missed her. She responded with surprise ... but that was that for that. I did not say, 'You know I still love you," or "do you think we can work on things". Nor did I leave anything 'hanging' as to a future call or anything of that nature.
Thanks for sending my mail, and happy Turkey day ... CLICK!
SKYES BRIGHTENED
So she DOES answer her phone! Mostly, I leave a voice mail once a week to ten days ... mixing in a letter or two as well. I won't get tired of trying to get back into her life. Nor am I going to get into a pissing match with her Mom either. Whatever they think will be left to them, I am just going to be me.
Felt super good to have her on the line. Now, I feel more comfortable about asking her out on a date. Problem with that is I don't drive ... and I don't want to pay for her Mom to chaperon us. Then again, I have to do what I have to do, right?
LAST CONVERSATION
Nebraska got miffed at me, because I 'misheard' something, which led to a misunderstanding and now has us not on good terms.
I am trying not to get my 'panties in a bunch', especially since hers obviously are. Mistakes occur, no one is perfect. Accept the apology and drive the hell on. Life is to darn precious, if not short, to be feeling ill about something unintended.
One of the things when you communicate thru a medium is that there is a chance for unintended interpretations to be made. If we were at lunch having the same discussion, there would have been no resulting anxieties. I know, because what started off as something simple, grew because the context wasn't there. Had we been face to face, the conversation results would have been different.
The problem of being quick to take offense is one of the reasons I try to 'slow burn'. I am so like, you know what you are trying to do, when you do something. Either you are trying to be mean and angry(read:selfish), or you are measuring things trying to see what someone meant.
The thing with the two previous conversations, is that I 'pumped my brakes' and made sure that I got around the course. Was not timed, so speed didn't matter as much as getting to the end safely. Again with Nebraska, I have stepped back, and will let her keep her own counsel for a few days.
Or weeks.
6 comments:
First off, I'm so glad you got to talk to Skye! Yay! :)
But I'm sorry that Nebraska has misunderstood something. I've said it before that while phones and emails are convenient and a necessity, there is always the possibility that things will be misconstrued. Nothing can take the place of a face-to-face to make sure that there is complete understanding. You don't get body language on the phone or in an email, and you can't see that look in the eye that can totally change the meaning of something.
I hope she cools off soon.
Hugs, Beth
Yea, what Beth said.
I like the idea of the e-mail messages and letters. I may have to give both a try, they may end up in oblivion, but at least the attempt is there :o)
I think you handled the Mookie conversation well; how is she doing; wasn't she supposed to be downsized this month? that's awesome 'lil Mook is on the basketball team; basketball is one of my favorite sports
do you know someone else that could drive you/Skye on a date? or perhaps take a taxi? too bad we don't live closer, I'd have my son chauffer you around; it would be in style in his 1993 Cadillac; I'm sure you'll come up with something
hope you/Nebraska are able to work out what went "wrong" with miscommunications
betty
Fun video!
Regarding my plastic surgery comments--it is unfortunate that it's so easy to list things off like that, but it really isn't serious. Talk talk talk. On the other hand, after watching Rihanna dance around in her tiny short shorts, it isn't hard to be a bit self critical. :)
Hope thiongs work out
I agree with you about the face to face conversation. I too have had people take things the wrong way, in similar circustances. I still do with my family, even if it is face to face. I hope things work out for you, and hope you have a great day tomorrow!
Best Wishes,
Wes
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