... the Loser who is just the Biggest

SEE WHAT I HAVE TO PUT UP WITH?

Trying to watch one of my fave shows, 'The Biggest Loser' has been a challenge this year. Joelle, one of the two girls from the Motor really is a prime example of the kind of women that roam the streets of Detroit. I keep hearing Frank Black covering the Beach Boys 'Hang On To Your Ego', when I am listening to them.

Or AKA. Or my ex wife. "What can you tell them? What can you say that won't make them defensive?"

Many times, I find it difficult to hold conversations with people who seek out help, then want to talk about what is in my eye. That is why I 'present' myself, but I don't let myself do the Sisyphus thing, when I know that is all that I am doing. C'mon people ... trick this stuff up some, put some use some grease before you start, so at least you can say you tried to be gentle!

Hmm ... maybe I should unravel that a little.

PARTNERSHIP

To make it work, there has to be a stout sense of that if we both aren't happy, then it is like no one is, that if we don't arrive together, then we don't arrive period. When I was married, my ex could not get that into her head. She was always griefin' about 'how do I know', and saying things like, 'if it works so well, then why didn't it work for you?'

Needless to say, she didn't get it.

When you have decided to be in a full, committed relationship, you have made that choice to do 'whatever it takes', to see that the both of you reach the goal. IMO, there is only one goal for a couple. Period. The details that you need to work out means only one thing -- you ain't ready to be in a relationship.

So when I would make 'policy', she would disregard it, between my 'youth' (she is three years older than me) and my 'keep them apples up' attitude. She behaved much like Carla with Joelle ... and that would have been one thing, but she also wanted to play the victim, like Joelle to Carla!

Whaa ..? Anywho, it is going to be interesting when they bring everyone back, to see if Joelle managed to lose at least 20 lbs. I just don't see it, I really don't.

THE CHOICE IS YOURS

And that is part of what the 'Sisyphus' thing is. But my twist on the myth is that I willingly choose to push the boulder, and I can stop rolling it up a hill whenever I want. Which is why I stress that I don't actually worry (thanks for pointing out that I should not be worried, astute readers ..!) what is going to happen with me and Nebraska ... other than a corn shuckin' competition at the State Fair, and maybe a trip into ... uh, IS there any metro areas there? LOL!!

Watching and listening to Joelle make her case on as she is being eliminated, in my world, she hasn't made the choice. Whatever it is, her 'why' is very specious, her commitment non existent. That her and Carla aren't friends anymore isn't that surprising. Joelle is in her own world, and she can only see her own reality. I get the sense that she feels like she is a victim. And she chooses to be that.

Hope I don't run into her. In some ways, I have made her 'acquaintance' already. What is that old saying ..? "Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, and I am going to get medieval on you!"