Wednesday, June 8, 2011



Lovbabz, Mac, and Sherry left comments that I have been thinking about intermittently over the weekend on my ‘Mainly Random’ entry that I posted last week.  I think that my mention of the movie ‘Down With Love’ and some of what I got out of it sparked a bit of reaction, judging by the aforementioned comments.

No, I don’t necessarily think that ‘all women’ have become embittered with the process of being in a relationship with a man that they are ready to adopt the advice of the Barbra Novak (Rene Zwelleger in the movie), just as not all men are as rascally as Catcher Block (Ewan McGregor’s character).  But I do think that there has been a steady devaluation of romance and affection by some women, and that has led to something that I once thought may have been due to a natural consequence of aging, to now becoming adopted as model for how women regard relationships as they mature.
As far as any ‘Promise’ that a woman would make to a man as a prospective partner, I think enough of them got into their ‘Fast Car’ and kept on riding.  I guess my indelicate way of generalizing in my writing leaves some to be desired.  Were this taking place in a face-to-face conversation, there would be some nuance to my position that is not present in my journal.  I don’t think that ‘all women’ have this ‘unlovable attitude’ just as not all men are jerks or serial a-holes.  But since this is a REAL journal, I don’t always give a 360 degree opinion.  The kind of connections that I hope to achieve by my journal is to reach out and make connections with understanding people and to claim my dreams.  ‘Objectivity’ is optional, but occasionally, that is sometimes open to clarification.

I don't think that it is 'even' between men and women when it comes to being apathetic when it comes to participation in romance.  But that is a post in itself and I will get to that later, my man!

So there may be posts like this where I take a few comments and expand upon I think was being expressed.  One of the reasons I make my generalizations so broad is the ‘Auric Goldfinger Corollary’.  It works like a relationship ‘Drake Equation’, with certain liberties taken for things that cannot be accounted for.  And how I interpret available data for calculating the likelihood of my finding ‘that someone who IS that someone’ says the possible gain in being open to relationship is inconclusive.


Unlike some people who considered themselves a social misfit growing up, I never allowed the things that for many, makes them feel like an outcast, bother them get to me.  There are moments when I look around my near empty apartment and like I would do whenever I had my own, nod to myself and say, ‘this is good’.  Because, you see, for me it is.

I am going to make a fitness post tomorrow with a couple of workouts that can be implemented like, ‘right now’.  You don’t need a gym to get started and I will explain why they are more effective than going to a fitness center or employing a trainer, especially for a beginner.  Anywho, take it easy and try hard to keep cool!  Man, I swear I can smell myself BAKING when I go outside!!


Toon said...

You all have to work out this Men vs Women topic on your own. I have nothing to offer.

mrs. miss alaineus said...

i think society pushes a whole lot of that men vs. women shit on folks and many problems arise when people try to be who they think they 'should be' as opposed to just being themselves. be well- it's a scorcher here today as well.


Lovebabz said...

I think Mrs.Miss Alianeus is on point. I think we are to much with the fairy tale and not enough for being human with each other. We are caught up in roles, rules and shoulds.

I think having these discussions are helpful...but only if one is seeking to broadened their scope of understanding and experiences.

I am a woman for romance. But I am not one for strict roles.

I am looking forward to the fitness tips! God knows I could use them! perhaps you can start a series and get us all in shape!

Jonthy, Alice the uppity white cat's babysitter said...

Ditto on what Lovebabz and miss alaineus have said. Everyone I know has been hurt in some way in their lives by the opposite sex. And, as I have gotten older, I don't really see any difference between the sexes when it comes to relationships. I love romance and most women that I know love romance. We just become more cautious (men and women) as we grow older.

Stay cool outside Mark!

Bucko (a.k.a., Ken) said...

I think romance gets more difficult and complicated as we get older, it is less about chemistry and more about personality. May your personality shine.

Sarcastic Bastard said...

I look forward to the fitness post. I am a fat ass and could use some ideas to implement easily to get in better shape.

Mrs. Miss Alaineus is very wise. I agree with her comment.

Love you, Mark!

LceeL said...

Yeah - I could use some of that "get in shape" information, too.

As for all that man, woman, relationship stuff - I still say you think too much.

At some point you have to be able to say you understand that the only thing you have control over is "You". And you have to be able to look at stuff and say - "It's good for me" or "It's not good for me" and let the rest of it go.

And as long as I'm on my soapbox - you should study - go to school - and ultimately, be a Teacher. You are smart, articulate and you need to be able to pass the benefit of your experience on to others.

FrankandMary said...

Sex and romance's all mulitple confusions of intentionality...but when it is good it is great.

Tawnya said...

I think that romance has changed over the years. Once it was a nice dinner and talking, today it is texting, facebooking, and all that jazz. I miss the other side of romance, mostly because I think that people are hiding behind technology too much these days and that goes for me too.

laurenne said...



I would hope that romance gets easier when we're older because then we can weed out the cheese and appreciate the real... like notes in the towels.